Well, “coital alignment” is just a fancy name for a way of making love which is designed to give the woman an orgasm during intercourse. (Most men will naturally come during lovemaking, of course. Women much less so.)

It’s derived from the standard missionary position, or more accurately from the “riding high” variation of the missionary position.

Conventional Missionary Position Sex

Moving Into Riding High Variation

Riding High Variation Of Missionary

Riding high means that during sexual intercourse the man shifts his body upwards on his partner (he is effectively shifting his head upwards towards or past hers).

The purpose is to bring his pelvis into alignment with hers, and because he does this after he’s inserted his penis into her vagina, his penis is going to be pushed downwards into a more vertical orientation than normal.

When the couple are in this position Edward Eichel discovered that if the man and woman rock together rather than having the man thrust in and out of her vagina in the traditional forward and backward movement, her clitoris gets stimulation from the area around the base of his penis and his pubic bone.

Indeed, there can be enough stimulation for the woman to be able to reach orgasm.

There is another significant advantage the modification to the missionary position which I’ve just described, which, as I say, is called the coital alignment technique:  it prevents the man from reaching orgasm too quickly (except in the most extreme cases of premature ejaculation).

Sex researcher Edward Eichel developed this way of making love. He believed one of the reasons that men came too quickly for their partner’s pleasure was because they succumbed – particularly in the man on top position – to the urge to thrust in and out of the woman’s vagina very vigorously, with an ever-increasing pace, as he instinctively responded to the increasingly urgent desire to ejaculate inside his partner.

But by adapting intercourse in the way that I’ve just described, this rush to orgasm can be avoided.

In other words, a man can control his instinctual desire to ejaculate as fast as possible, and become more controlled and slow in his movements – which is going to make him last longer during intercourse.

Now it has to be said, in all fairness, that this is not a complete cure for premature ejaculation, because there are other issues that play into this dysfunction, such as fear of women and anxiety and anger.

But for a man who isn’t in the grip of emotional issues like those,  the coital alignment technique can offer a great way of extending intercourse, prolonging the buildup to orgasm, and providing his female partner with satisfaction and pleasure: she is almost certain to achieve orgasm during intercourse.

You might wonder why, with such a radical improvement on the conventional man on top position, the coital alignment technique hasn’t swept the medals in the sex positions popularity stakes!

I think the first reason is probably that not many people know about it.

Even though it’s been around since the 1980s, the coital alignment technique has not received much publicity in mainstream erotica or, indeed, in online sexual information for men and women.

Of course erotica isn’t a sex education medium, really, so you’re not going to pan the camera up to the genitals of a couple to demonstrate how they are making love using coital alignment. That’s not the point of erotica, which is to get people off as quickly as possible.

But there is nevertheless a serious point here – which is that without a movie demonstration of “how to do” the coital alignment technique, most people will struggle to understand it.

You may have seen all those accounts of the man moving up the woman’s body so his penis is oriented vertically (or at least more vertically), followed by pelvic rocking with the man leading the woman and the woman leading the man alternately.

Yes, it’s all a bit confusing. So here’s the fundamental question for you: are you willing to explore the possibility of satisfaction during intercourse using the coital alignment technique?

I assume you care about the woman enjoying orgasm during intercourse? Or have you found some compromise in your love life?

A compromise like this: many couples have reached a compromise whereby the man will bring his woman to orgasm before he enters her, after which he’ll take his own pleasure by thrusting in her until he reaches orgasm.

However, it has to be said this doesn’t produce the ultimate in satisfaction for either man or woman.

To start with sex is much more rewarding when it’s a mutually satisfying process – and that might mean either cooperating in the process of intercourse (which generates much greater intimacy) or it could mean actually ensuring that both the woman and the man enjoy a long slow build-up to orgasm (thereby ensuring their orgasms are mush more powerful) and in particular it could mean ensuring the woman reaches orgasm during intercourse!

Over many years of work with men and women, one thing I have come to understand is that even though very few women currently reach orgasm during intercourse, there are a lot of women who would love to be able to do so, because to them this is the ultimate expression of bonding and intimacy with their partner.

You do have an option available which is simpler than the coital alignment technique if you want to use it: simply use a vibrator on the woman’s clitoris during intercourse.

The obvious disadvantage is that this restricts the number of positions you can use – they will only work if her clitoris is easily accessible.

Furthermore, it’s a distraction during lovemaking – you may not actually want to have to focus on placing vibrator on the woman’s clitoris.

Not only that, but a significant proportion of women don’t really enjoy vibrators anyway, at least not as a means of sexual stimulation during lovemaking.

So the best way to reach orgasm during intercourse is to use a technique which allows you to simply enjoy a form of penis-in-the-vagina lovemaking without the need of additional clitoral stimulation from your hands, fingers, or tongue.

Orgasm during intercourse was the original purpose of the coital alignment technique, and in another post we are going to have a look at how this can be achieved.

It really isn’t complicated, and it’s certainly worth investigating if you’re at all interested in simultaneous orgasm during lovemaking because the CAT appears to be the easiest way to achieve that wonderful experience.