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Coital Alignment Works!

A Better Way of Making Love?

The coital alignment technique is an interesting new way of ensuring men and women can make love in a way that leads to female orgasm during intercourse.

Women don’t generally come (reach orgasm) during intercourse because the woman’s clitoris doesn’t get much stimulation during intercourse, unless the man or his partner plays with it manually, or uses a vibrator in the area as lovemaking proceeds.

orgasm during intercourse
Female orgasm during intercourse is not a common event – around 10 to 15% of women reach orgasm this way.

To get round this problem, many couples have looked for different ways of making love — rear entry seems particularly popular, because the man can reach underneath and around his partner and stimulate her clitoris as he thrusts into her from behind.

However, it would be rather nice to ensure that a woman can reach orgasm without “manual stimulation” (finger play) during lovemaking, and the coital alignment technique is one method which may well be able to produce this outcome.

The technique was developed by American psychotherapist Edward Eichel. He thought  it would be possible for the man’s body, in particular his pubic area, to stimulate the woman’s clitoral area during lovemaking if the orientation of the male and female body were slightly different during sex.

And so he “invented” the coital alignment technique. Basically, a man shifts higher up the woman’s body when lovemaking commences, so his penis is pressed further downwards, into a more vertical orientation. (This may be unconformable for men whose erection stands close up against their belly.)

The idea: since the man’s pelvis will be in line directly over the woman’s pelvis during lovemaking, it is possible for the man and the woman to adopt a rocking motion rather than the normal thrusting motion, in which the man’s body is constantly in contact with the area of the woman’s mons pubis.

The end result of this is that the man’s body and the woman’s body meet at regular intervals during a rhythmic rocking motion of the pelvis, provided the two people making love have positioned themselves correctly.

posiiton of man suring coital alignment technique

Note the position of the woman’s legs – this can make the technique better for a woman (see text below for full description).

Your Position In CAT lovemaking

What does the woman actually do in the coital alignment technique?

Well, first of all, she really needs to participate actively – rather than letting her man do all the work (I believe some women think one of the advantages of the conventional missionary position is how restful it is!)

The main objective of the CAT is to keep the clitoral area in close contact with the man’s pubic bone, and perhaps also the lower part of his penis shaft (although I think this is more difficult for most couples), so that the clitoris receives pressure in a regular way as he moves up and down.

One trick that’s been recommended to help achieve this is for the woman to put her legs around the back of her man’s legs and pull herself into him.

The coital alignment technique requires a rhythm of rocking rather than thrusting. So the man is going to be moving up and down vertically, with his penis entering his partner pretty much at an angle of 90° to his body.

As you can imagine, this is very different to the standard man on top position. Also, he’s not going to be trying to thrust deeply into his partner, because for most of the time, the lower part of his penile shaft (nearest his body) will be outside his partner’s vagina.

The man needs to try and ensure that his pubic area and the base of his penis stay in contact with his partner’s clitoral area.

This requires a rhythm between both partners moving in a rocking backwards and forwards motion.

Any Problems?

While the coital alignment technique really can be a great way of improving sex for couples – and possibly bringing woman to orgasm during intercourse – in some cases the man may not feel great deal of pleasure, because he’s deprived of the opportunity to thrust in the way which is biologically natural (and therefore very satisfying) for him.

And men with short penises may find that they slip out of their partner too often to make this a practical sexual technique.

It is, however, good for the woman, who should get great clitoral stimulation. And if you don’t find the CAT satisfying, there are various things you can try to see if they work for you: put a pillow under the woman’s hips, or maybe have the man move his hips in a circular motion.

A lot of men and women suggest that the CAT is most satisfying when you find a variation which suits you as a particular couple.

In one case, a man found it was vastly improved by placing his legs outside his partners’, while she kept her legs close together as he moved up and down. Obviously this makes the vagina feel far tighter, which can give the man great pleasure, while the woman still gets the clitoral stimulation she needs to make her orgasm.

Sexual Guilt, Orgasms & The CAT

Sexual Guilt & Orgasms

Even today, when it seems like sexual information can be found in every newspaper and in every corner of the Internet, people still experience embarrassment and shame about their sexuality.

For example, I have women emailing me who are shocked to discover that their husbands masturbate on a regular basis.

It begs the question of how a couple can be in a relationship, and communicate so little about sex that a woman doesn’t know it’s perfectly normal for a man in a sexual relationship to masturbate.

The other side of the equation is equally puzzling? Why would a man keep his masturbation a secret?

It’s possible, of course, that a man might be masturbating to porn, and he’s ashamed about it, but it’s also likely that both men and women still carry embarrassment and guilt around sexual activity.

One of the ways this seems to manifest in society is the fact that women still experience many fewer orgasms than men.

Does that statement just represent the fact that men’s sex drive is higher than women’s?

Or does it represent the fact that sex is oriented towards male sexual satisfaction?

Or does it represent the fact that men masturbate more than women outside a sexual relationship?

These are all important questions. But I’d ask a different question: how can we ensure that women enjoy more orgasms?

And the answer is for couples to learn how to use the coital alignment technique.

As you will know if you’ve read the other articles on this website, the coital alignment technique requires a fundamentally different kind of movement from both the man and the woman.

Instead of having the man thrusting in and out of his partner like a piston in a cylinder, the man and woman rock their pelvises together so that the woman’s clitoris receives constant low-level stimulation.

This stimulation builds up sexual energy, and will eventually lead to an orgasm.

One of the questions men often ask about this is whether it’s as good for them (i.e. men) as normal intercourse. 

Because it’s certainly true that hard and fast thrusting and a powerful ejaculation can be extremely rewarding for a man.

Well, yes. But unless you’ve tried the coital alignment technique, you won’t know about the satisfaction both you and your partner can get from gradually increasing levels of sexual tension which culminate in a massive orgasm. Often a simultaneous orgasm.

That’s the pleasure you get with the coital alignment technique.

There’s something quite magical about how sexual tension builds up with the coital alignment technique. Some kind of energetic circuit forms between the man and woman, so that the CAT usually results in a simultaneous orgasm that’s truly wonderful.

(How little this is known. Even this article by an expert about simultaneous orgasm doesn’t mention the CAT!)

But is the reward of that experience sufficiently great to overcome the pure physical pleasure of hard and fast thrusting for the average man?

You’ll have to try the CAT for yourself to find out, but in the majority of cases, men seem to really enjoy the type of orgasms they get from this different way of lovemaking.

Perhaps one of the reasons for that is that they can see how much pleasure their female partner gets from reaching orgasm during lovemaking, while the man’s penis is inside her vagina.

There’s certainly a special quality about these orgasms.

Now it’s also true that if more couples adopted the coital alignment technique, then the orgasm gap between men and women would reduce. 

That’s because both partners would enjoy the extraordinary experience of coming together during lovemaking. And, after all, why not?

It’s been demonstrated many times that more orgasms for women means an improved quality of relationship for all couples.

That’s because shared orgasms produce a much more intimate and connected sense of relationship between a couple.

I suppose one final question for this post is why the coital alignment technique hasn’t  become more popular if it’s capable of producing such rewarding sexual experiences.

Regrettably, I think the answer is that intercourse, in both men and women’s minds alike, is seen as something that is fundamentally about male pleasure.

There’s a cultural pressure for intercourse to please men – it’s almost as though men’s sexual desire is insatiable and has to be accommodated by women (at the expense of their own pleasure!)

It’d be a much more interesting and potentially rewarding relationship for all of us if we accepted that sexual pleasure was just as important for women as men!

Video – A diversion – 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm!

There are plenty of reasons why women should have as many orgasms as men – if not more!

According to Planned Parenthood, as many as one woman in three can have difficulty reaching orgasm.

And that’s before you even look at how many have trouble coming from vaginal intercourse alone.

So how many men still believe that if they just f*ck a woman hard enough, she’s going to come?

Really quite a lot – but it’s completely untrue.

More than 80% of women can’t reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone.

There could be all kinds of reasons why this is so, including the fact that foreplay hasn’t gone on long enough to arouse a woman sufficiently for her to reach orgasm.

But whatever the exact cause of this, it’s clear we are not making love in the right way.

The right way is one where women and men are equally entitled to enjoy the pleasure of orgasm during intercourse!

One response to this is for women to be diagnosed with female sexual dysfunction – which is ridiculous.

Almost all women can reach orgasm if foreplay or loveplay (if you prefer) continues for 20 or 30 minutes.

And when it was discovered that the more sexual activities women enjoyed during one session of lovemaking, the more likely they were to come, it was hailed as a great discovery.

But the reality is very simple! The more sexual experiences you have in a session of lovemaking, the longer lovemaking goes on.

And we know very clearly that for women, time (long time) is of the essence when it comes to reaching orgasm!

So the coital alignment technique, which progresses much more slowly towards orgasm, gives women the time they need for the sexual energy of orgasm to build up.

Incidentally, the coital alignment technique can also be extremely helpful for men who have a tendency to premature ejaculation. That’s because the thing that makes most men come quickly during sex is hard and fast thrusting, which is avoided in the CAT.